Oh hey.

Nice to meet you. I’m so glad you’re here and I hope you’ll stick around and have some conversations with me. I’m Eunice, a Gen-Xer cosplaying as a grown-up. I’m a solo parent who has learned a thing or two about trauma, abuse, and the justice system and I want to start a public discourse with the goal of creating systemic change.

Therapy is great, but it can’t fix what ails us, especially when the very systems that were (allegedly) created to protect us are the source of so much of our harm.

What I’ve learned over the past seven years of being actively involved in these systems is that none of it works how we were taught it did, and that is the problem. And, because I come from the generation notorious for “we don’t talk about it,” the problem persists.

I’ve also discovered that our policy failures as a nation are all connected. Whether it’s the family court system, our massive gun problem, or the demolition of democracy, the problems stem from the same root: we uphold ideologies over human life, time and time again.

A few things you should know.

I am incredibly passionate about this work and the demands for change. I’m not here for apologists or the “but what about” crowd. This shit is extremely uncomfortable and it’s time we face the beast. It’s the only way we can make change. The more I’ve openly shared my experience, the more I’ve learned that I’m actually not alone, even though when I was in the thick of it, I had never felt lonlier in my life.

I invite you to use the knowledge you gain here and from other reputable sources to reclaim your power and your voice in the statehouses here in the U.S. and testify on legislation that will help us protect each other from harm.

Learn. Activate. Rest. Repeat.

I think I’m legally required to say that I’m not a therapist or an attorney so nothing I say should be considered medical or legal advice. There are professionals for that, although many of them are also part of the problem, so I highly suggest you do your research before hiring anyone. But I’m also a believer that lived experience is as valuable as, if not moreso, than the things we learn in books. One of the things I’ve discovered is that what we learned and what we live and witness are not always the same. We are the experts of our own experience and I want to express the duality of what is true for me may not be true for you. That doesn’t make either of our experiences invalid.

I read a lot so hit me with all your favorite books on stuff, especially if they are written by BIPOC/LGBTQ folks. I also linked my Bookshop above. I also have to disclose that it’s an affiliate link, so I receive a small commission if you choose to buy anything shopping here. I highly recommend Bookshop for online book purchases, as they support indie bookstores, which I am also a massive fan of. You aren’t going to read that book tomorrow anyway, be honest. It’s another small way we can fight the way we’ve been doing things that got us here in the first place.

I am all for challenging ideas and viewpoints, but I will not tolerate abuse of any kind in the comments or in my inbox.

And lastly, if you’re not okay with a generous sprinkling of “fucks”, this might not be your jam. I will share them generously until there are no fucks left to give because that’s how fucking mad I am.

Let’s be internet friends.

On this platform, subscribers are how we keep going. The content here is important enough that I currently plan to keep my content in front of a paywall for a few weeks. Subscribers basically get to cut to the front of the line and start the conversation. Paid subscribers get to go back into the archives if there’s something they missed.

That said, as a writer, it’s important to get paid for the effort I put into creating this space. I can’t pay the rent with likes and shares, y’all. Trust me, if I could, I would cash that shit in right now and retire for life. So if you’re in a financial place where you are able to, please consider becoming a paid supporter. And please know that if your financial status changes at any time, I completely understand. I’ve been on both ends of that spectrum. Even though my landlord doesn’t accept likes and shares, they are an affordable and deeply meaningful action.

And if you really like what I have to say and want me to speak in front of your community, let’s chat.

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